The best way you know how

Been reading this particular book and found some parts interesting......

In an age where the pursuit of happiness seems the only moral code, what do you do when your life falls short of your dreams? Is there wisdom to be learnt from the sacrifices commitment entails? Or is there something in the notion of compatibility that we tend to overlook?

Some thoughts that created ' wows' for me :

a) If you are going to BE with me, then BE with me. BE present. Be here and NOW and stop holding out for something better to come along because it never will. You're waiting for some flawless handsome stranger to come satisfy all your dreams but not your real life. It's an illusion for people who would nurture a romantic narcassism than love real flawed people like you and me. If only you would accept it, your ordinariness. Not every compromise is a resignation, you know, and it's not easy, it's the hardest thing in the world, but at some point you're gonna have to give yourself up or you'll spend the rest of your life alone - by Forster

b) Choosing monogamy is not, of course, choosing not to desire anyone other than one's partner; it is choosing not to do anything that violates one's idea of monogamy. Everyone flirts with their (mostly conscious) standards of fidelity. But one is only ever faithful to fidelity itself, never merely one's partner - Monogamy by Adam Philips

c) Marriage should be the protection of two solitudes - getting married doesn't have to deprive us of our freedom or independence. It'll just be something that makes us stronger. Going out into the world is just so much easier when you've got someone to come back to.

d) Love isn't something you can reason, but something inchoate, indescribable. Captured in the details that haunt a moment and linger on the body. Evaporate like steam when you try to hold on to them.

And the story continues......